No.. really now..i mean ..
why is it so important?
We have are own thoughts, are own needs and interests.Why we want to be accepted?
Accepted from whom? Parents? Friends? Peers? Acquaintances? ..
Its hard to understand that -we are only belong to ourselves-. We say things like that to us everyday but at what extend we really realise it?
We afraid of being judged or we afraid the critique. Are those two things -judgement and critique- the same or they are just two different words to state the same thing. When we judge is the act of stating our opinion. When we critique we do the same. So where is the difference? The difference is in the history of language.
''Judged'' derives from jus,(dikaion in Greek) and critique -reminds me the verb (krinw in Greek ) which means: i give my opinion on a certain issue.
We know that, we can open a dictionary and see those things, the issue is deeper though.
Why we are afraid of being judged or being under critique...and i can understand the first one no one has money to pay lawyers or want to end up in a prison...but i don't understand why we afraid of being criticised and i really don't understand the meaning of the phrase''constructive criticism''. Better not start the the -isms...
I am getting confused and i don't want to over think too much or analysing and stating the obvious. All the societal norms are formed in order to be able to live in a society ... but we are all so different and unique and lots of us struggle to conform to those societal norms ... then we make other societal norms to abide by and we find peers and people who are similar to us in order to move on .. All that in the sphere of the appreciation and the feeling of belonging somewhere.
And we forget that we belong to ourselves, who belong to the universe. Everything is so chaotic and as they say chaos has an order itself. All i want to say is that if we know who we are we will not have the feeling of being appreciated it will happen automatically as the universe has its own powers and a specific order that every one of us is everything and nothing at the same time.
Keep calm and ...
